As I’ve matured (I
will soon be reaching the grand-old age of 28! Woo!! But, I’ll be working on my
birthday! Boo!!), I have turned into quite the book worm! I’ve read many on a
book on spirituality, self-development and confidence such as ‘The Chimp Paradox’ by Professor Steve
Peter’s, ‘Confidence’ by Rob Yeung
and ‘The Art of Happiness: A Handbook For
Living’ by HH Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler.
I have learnt a
great deal from these books, and I personally recommend reading all of them,
but be aware, if your reasoning for reading such books is to develop and progress
on a personal level, then you will be unlikely to achieve this just by reading
the books alone, you must diligently apply this knowledge. In my own case, some
of the lessons I’ve learnt have not been long-lasting, due to my lack of
discipline in physically applying these lessons to my own life. The HH Dalai Lama states “happiness
is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions”. Thus, you must
actively ‘work’ at being happy. That could mean you limiting the time
that you spend listening to music with negative messages, getting away from
negative people who slyly put you down regularly, or by being grateful of what
you have instead of focusing on what you don’t have. Some of the happiest
people I know practice gratitude subconsciously. For instance, the joy I’ve
seen on loved one’s face’s after looking at a spotted banana (because they
prefer how they taste when compared to a spotless banana), or when they eat a
crunchy apple or when they see a blue sky, is akin to the expression of a lottery winner! Pure ecstasy, excitement
and happiness. I know this may sound a little ‘kerazy’, but I feel being able to express true gratitude for
‘every day’ pleasures, is one of the key’s to experiencing true happiness.
Anywhoo, I may have gone slightly off topic (I tend to do
that a lot so get used to it ;) !). The point of this blog entry is to discuss
and share what I have learnt from Rhonda
Byrne’s book ‘Hero’. In essence,
the book discusses how we as humans can realize our true potential, find our
calling and then become ‘Heroes’ . The
book includes testimonies from several different people who have excelled in
the worlds of sport, business and media. Below includes quotes from the book as
well as my interpretations of some of these quotes.
1.
How to Find Your Dream
‘Look at those moments where you’re feeling
blissful, moments when time just flies by, when you really feel lit up, when
you’re really inspired’. Mastin Kipp (creator of The Daily Love).
‘It’s important
people take the time to identify what they love. If you don’t, you’re just a
rudderless boat’. Layne Beachley (the most successful female surfer of all
time).
‘One way of
finding out a direction: take two pieces of paper. Write down on one piece of
paper what you’re good at, and on the other piece what you’d like to be able to
do with your life. And see if you can take these two pieces of paper and match
things together’. Peter Burwash (former tennis player and current tennis coach).
‘The other way
is go in the direction of the real entrepreneur which is asking: ‘‘What does
the world need and what does the world want at this particular point in
time?’’. Peter Burwash
Through some of my
worst moments in my life, I found moments of clarity, and ultimately my
‘bliss’. I remember watching the documentary ‘Amy’, on the life of Amy Winehouse. She uniquely explained that
her reason for writing (and singing) songs was her way of ‘making something good out of something shit’, the ‘shit’, being
the trials and tribulations of her life. Even though I am by no means comparing
her level of genius to my writing skills, I feel that I can relate. Writing was
and is a catharsis and a ‘get out of my thoughts’ exercise for me, and through
it I’ve found my ‘bliss’.
I’m not saying
deliberately go through pain and bad experience to achieve ‘bliss’, but I feel
that all experiences, including bad ones are temporary, thus positivity can
eventually be born out of it.
Another way of
finding out what your love, bliss or dream is to GET OUT THERE! Most of us have
labels of what we are and what we are not, and images/perceptions of who we are
and how we should act. Quite frankly a lot of these categories that we put
ourselves in are complete bullsh*t, and can result in separatism (which is
ridiculous as we are all connected!). We ‘shouldn’t live the same year 80 times over
and call it life’ (Unknown (well to me anyway, please enlighten me!). I
feel that you have do things that you haven’t done before, experience new
places, new food, take dance classes, acting classes, writing classes or just
partake in general ‘randomness’!
Exposing yourself to new things will widen your horizon’s and give you a better
understanding of your likes and dislikes.
2.
Visualizations
‘Every idea that
I’ve ever had and everything I’ve ever done I first saw in my mind. People talk
about visualization: that’s just a way of saying that you can see it in your
mind. Ultimately you can’t have a dream without being able to see it. How are
you going to manifest something that don’t see in your mind?’. Laird Hamilton (world-renowned surfer).
A way in which you
can visualize is by creating your own vision board (also known as a dream
board). Patti Dobrowolski,
in her Ted Talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zESeeaFDVSw ) explains how
you can ‘draw your dreams into reality’, by firstly drawing a picture on the
left hand side of a piece of paper that depicts your ‘current state’. Secondly,
drawing three separate arrows entitled ‘see it’, ‘believe it’ and ‘act on it’,
followed by a picture on the far-right hand side which depicts your ‘desired
new reality’. This is your ‘road map for change’. If you complete this
exercise, it would be good practice to place the drawing somewhere in your room
whereby you’ll see it easily when you wake up. This is so that your
subconscious mind ‘can absorb the images and construct a program which is stimulated
every time it is envisioned’ (YUSA, 2014). Celebrities such as Jim
Carey have used visualization techniques to great effect. In an interview with
Oprah (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nPU5bjzLZX0), he explained
that before the fame (when he was broke) he wrote a $10, 000,000 check to
himself and placed it inside his wallet. Five years later he found out that he
was going to make $10, 000,000 on the film ‘Dumb
and Dumber’. Obviously, that’s not all he did to achieve his dream, (he was
also quoted as saying ‘you can’t just visualize and eat a
sandwich!’), but he does believe in the power of intention, believing
that your thoughts can create your reality (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ZBOjuyjHe4 ).
3.
Do Not Let Your Fears Stop
You
‘The word
courage comes from the French word Coeur, which means ‘’heart’’. When you go
ahead and do something despite the fear you feel, courage arises from within
your heart. This is how you acquire courage. It’s not the other way around,
where you have to find the courage before you act. Courage comes from
performing fearful acts! As you build courage you’ll find that things you once
thought were scary don’t seem scary at all’. (Rhonda Byrne).
This quote speaks
for itself and needs no interpretation. All I will say is that I have had
fearful/scary experiences in writing and sharing this blog and in writing my
book previously to this (please type in ‘The Noise by Ashley Samba’ into
Amazon (all formats) if you would like to buy my book). This
is purely because I have feared what people might think of me. Instead of
limiting myself to please other people, or to fit in, I’m going to continue
doing this because I enjoy it. So, ‘French Connection UK It!’. If people like
what I write that’s great. If it’s not for them and they rip me for doing this
then so-be-it!
4.
Determination
‘When you tried
to walk as a baby, you fell down hundreds of times. When you first tried to
feed yourself, you put food in your eye, on your cheek, and everywhere but in
your mouth. Learning how to talk was a long journey full of mistakes, but you
never once considered giving up. Determination is part of your nature. You have
it within you, and you can find it again’. Rhonda Byrne
‘We
were born perfect’ (KRS ONE).
Simple, we had all the tools we needed for success (such as determination and
love) as babies and then we got sidetracked by self-doubt, low self-esteem and
insecurities, among others things. The world has ‘French Connection UK’d us’
and made us forget the true power that we possess. We have an obsession with
perfectionism. We need to understand that life isn’t perfect, and that setbacks
and failures (or more appropriately put ‘lessons’) are precursors to
mastership.
5.
Positive
self-talk/Subconscious Mind
‘The only reason
you don’t believe in yourself is because you’ve inadvertently thought your way
into not believing in yourself. Thinking a whole bunch of thoughts and
accepting that they’re true form beliefs. You were born with belief in
yourself, and so if you don’t believe in yourself today it just means that in
your life you have accepted thoughts about yourself that other people put upon
you, and you believed them to be true. And the only way you have maintained
that lack of belief has been through your own continuing thoughts about
yourself – your self-talk’. Rhonda Byrne
‘As you think
thoughts that you can achieve your dream, you will change the program in your
subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is like a computer, and it has many
different programs that you have loaded into it, either with your thoughts or
by listening to and accepting other people’s thoughts about you. And you’ve
been doing this throughout your life’. Rhonda Byrne
Negative self-talk
is something I have struggled with for a long time (island time, long!).
Instead of crucifying myself every time I do something wrong, or every time
that something I’m doing doesn’t go to plan, I try to tell myself that these
experiences are a chance to learn, a chance to better myself and to chance to
build myself on the road to mastership. Even though I’m not always ‘Mr. Confident’,
I feel that subconsciously, this change in perspective has allowed me to gain
more confidence and self-belief in situations that I was previously fearful of.
6.
I can’t do much but I can
do that
‘I can’t do
much, but I can do that. If everybody on this planet would get that lesson – I
can’t do much, but I can do that. I learned that you can help other people in
small ways that are available to you right this second. If we all lived that
way, you would see a shift in the thinking on the planet’. Liz Murray (famous
for her path to Harvard from homelessness)
WE HAVE THE POWER!
*Note to self and others*
Anyway. This is a
non-exhaustive essay on what I’ve learned from the book ‘Hero’. Let me know what you
think!
Yours,
Ashley Samba.
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